Gottman Referral Network

About

If you’re a gay couple struggling to communicate without fighting, feeling more like roommates than partners, or unsure if things can ever get back to how they used to be, you’re not alone. Many of the couples we work with say the same thing when they first reach out: “We’ve tried to fix this ourselves, but it just keeps looping.” Others say they’ve tried therapy before and felt unseen, like the advice didn’t quite apply to them.

That’s why we built the Gay Couples Institute—because same-sex couples deserve more than generic advice. They deserve an approach that reflects who they are and what they actually face.

Since 2007, we’ve helped over 4,000 LGBTQ+ couples. We’re the only couples therapy center—gay or straight—to publish our outcomes in a peer-reviewed journal (Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 2017). Our methods have also been selected for inclusion in the upcoming 2026 edition of The Marriage Clinic Casebook.

Our signature program, the Gay Relationship Revolution, is a 90-day structured experience based on the Gottman Method and Emotion Focused Therapy, tailored specifically for same-sex couples. It follows a clear path:

- The “Me” Phase helps each partner stabilize emotionally, physically, and mentally, especially if trauma, sleep, or burnout are impacting the relationship.

- The “You” Phase focuses on communication, conflict repair, and rebuilding trust. Most couples spend the bulk of their time here.

- The “Us” phase reignites physical intimacy, joy, and a shared vision, because lasting love requires more than just problem-solving.

Couples often tell us, “We wish we’d done this sooner.” Our work is inclusive of all races, bodies, genders, and drives. You won’t be pathologized. You’ll be supported.

We know what works. And we’re ready to help you get there.

Special populations

LGBTQ+