Gottman Referral Network

About

Hi, my name is Amy-Noelle. I am a relationship therapist and life coach. I have almost 15 years of experience working with couples.

I help couples resolve the real issues and pain that drive a wedge in their relationship.

I usually can know the health of couples' relationships just by looking at whether and how often they get into what I call the “trap” cycle.

It looks like this:

You cause more hurt by how issues are brought up than the issue itself.

You never actually get to the real issue!

The character assignation and blame prevent you from gaining understanding.
Your relationship is rife with frustration and disappointment, so much so that you feel like you are walking on eggshells and always anticipate getting into a disagreement.

Now it takes even less for you to get triggered and upset because of past hurt and past conflicts.

Because of lingering hurt, you knee-jerk into reactive mode when you sense your partner has a complaint.

The trap is set.

Reactivity begets more reactivity, and resolving issues in this unfriendly climate becomes nearly impossible.

The clients who come to me have often been to other therapists and feel desperate for change. They are seeking more direction and movement in the sessions.

I use a combination of therapy and coaching, allowing for quick positive change and real healing.

With coaching, I give you the tools to keep you from entering the trap cycle I mentioned above. This is important because just one blow-up can cancel any meaningful progress, so you want to stop adding to the hurt as quickly as possible.

Therapy is about recognizing the real issue and healing past hurt that carries over to future arguments.

When both partners can show up authentically without letting blame and little insults break down trust and respect, there is naturally a more felt connection.

Special populations

Couples, premarital, dating, infidelity, separation