Gottman Referral Network

About

I am a relationship coach and therapist, with an intuitive gift for working with relational dynamics.

What I have learned as a relationship coach and therapist and as a human soul who loves LOVE and the magic of healthy relationships is that it’s not enough to:

❤️love spending time together

❤️share values

❤️have good chemistry

❤️laugh together

❤️have good conversation

❤️genuinely enjoy one another’s company

❤️admire each other’s qualities

❤️feel love.

Yes, all of this is very important.

But if there is a deficit in body intelligence, heart attunement, healthy emotional vulnerability, and self-awareness, the issue will almost always be the same.

Partners may believe the issue is the breakdown of one of the things mentioned above. When the truth is, even the “masters of relationships” have challenges, ruptures, moments of feeling hurt, disappointed, misunderstood. What becomes the salve of reconciliation is the capacity to gain understanding, for deep care of another’s feelings, and a genuine desire to find the sweet spot where empathy and validation become antidotes to stuckness.

As soon as one feels seen and heard, pent-up energy is released, defenses soften, and there is more love, freeing up the barriers to seeking ways to work it out. Which is to say, loving understanding is the solution to finding solutions!

When partners can feel like their feelings and what's on their hearts is worthy of being held with importance and tenderness, then everything becomes more possible. There is new motivation, receptivity, and selfless energy that fills the space between partners. Growth, feeling close, and deeper trust are forged beautifully.

𝗧𝗲𝘅𝘁 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝘂𝗻𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝟴𝟯𝟮.𝟯𝟭𝟵.𝟴𝟰𝟳𝟭 𝗶𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲. 𝗢𝗿 𝗗𝗠 COMMUNITY.

Special populations

Couples, premarital, dating, infidelity, separation