Gottman Referral Network

About

Let me guess—you start talking about dinner plans, and it spirals into the same old fight. Before you know it, you're both frustrated, nobody feels heard, and you're left wondering, "How did we get here again?"

Here's what I won't do: Turn our sessions into "relationship autopsies"—endlessly dissecting who said what and who's more wrong. No going in circles, no talking feelings to exhaustion. You probably already re-litigate everything at home. That gets you nowhere but exhausted, shut down, and alone.

Here's what I will do: Give you a real playbook with practical skills you can use right away. We’ll pinpoint the patterns that keep you stuck and focus on strategies that drive real progress and make change last.

My approach is warm but direct, with honest feedback, clear guidance, and a structured process that keeps you out of circular conversations and on a steady path.

Drawing on 15+ years as an NYU professor and the proven Gottman approach, I help couples change entrenched patterns such as:

- Exhausting cycles where you both end up feeling wounded and miles apart
- Arguments that go from zero to nuclear in seconds flat
- The painful invisibility of not feeling seen or valued by your partner
- Rebuttal, defensiveness, counter-grievance, and shutdown in response to complaints
- Feeling emotionally cut off after conflict, with no clear way back to each other
- The slow fade of physical and emotional closeness
- Narratives that your partner can’t grow or meet your needs
- Trust issues after betrayal that seem impossible to repair

You'll learn repair techniques that actually resolve conflicts instead of recycling them. We won’t wait to start rebuilding your Emotional Bank Account. Most couples tell me they notice real shifts within just a few sessions.

Imagine facing challenges as partners rather than opponents, sharing daily life with more ease, warmth, and genuine connection.

Ready to get started? Visit danielmenely.com today.

Special populations

Premarital, Empty-Nesters, Professionals, Mid-Life Transitions, LGBTQ+, and Business Leaders.