West LA and Encino. Contact me to set up an appointment
I am a Gottman certified therapist with over 25 years of experience working with both individuals and couples. In addition to my Gottman certification, I am certified in Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT) as well as other research-based methods that support and enhance Gottman's approach.
SAME FIGHT, DIFFERENT DAY?
"We're stuck," many couples tell me. "We never get anywhere—even when we really try to sit down and talk about our problems." Real dialogue has stopped as partners continue to play a role in stand-offs that destroy confidence in their problem-solving abilities as well as the relationship. One goal of the therapy, as I see it, is to move you from these holding patterns into meaningful exchanges that address your true needs, hopes, wishes and dreams.
Fights are going to happen—they're natural and normal in all relationships. The question is: how quickly and effectively do you move to repair your fights? Are you able to examine exactly what went wrong and talk this over with your partner without getting back into the fight? If not, you are in effect "wasting" your fights, ensuring that there will be no take-away lesson and no chance to have more skilled interactions in the future.
If you’re feeling stuck with the way things are, increasingly disconnected or less and less hopeful about the future, the accelerated forms of therapy I use can help you get to the heart of the matter and rapidly implement change whether you're looking for couples' or individual work.
For additional information, please visit my website at http://www.DianaShulman.com