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SAME FIGHT, DIFFERENT DAY?
"We're stuck," many couples tell me. "We never get anywhere—even when we really try to sit down and talk about our problems." Real dialogue has stopped as partners continue to play a role in stand-offs that destroy confidence in their problem-solving abilities as well as the relationship. One goal of counseling, as I see it, is to move you out of these holding patterns into meaningful exchanges that address your true needs, hopes, wishes, and dreams.
I'm a Gottman certified therapist with over 25 years of experience and author of The ABCs of Love: Learn How Couples Rekindle Desire and Get Happy Again (available on Amazon). I'm also certified in Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT), a research-based model that supports and enhances Gottman's approach.
Fights are going to happen—they're natural and normal in all relationships. The question is: How quickly and effectively do you move to repair your fights? Are you able to examine exactly what went wrong and talk things over without getting back into the fight? If not, you are in effect wasting your fights—guaranteeing there'll be no valuable take-aways and little chance you'll have more skilled interactions in the future.
If you’re feeling stuck with the way things are, increasingly disconnected, or less and less hopeful about the future, it's time to roll up your sleeves and get to work. The accelerated forms of therapy I use can help you get to the heart of the matter and rapidly implement change whether you're looking for couple or individual therapy.
For additional information, please visit my website at http://www.DianaShulman.com