Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday
Long-term relationships can be a source of joy and happiness -- or, they can cause us to feel misunderstood, hurt, and lonely.
Life presents challenges and disappointments. If relationship partners lack certain skills, life's challenges will cause them to grow apart rather than closer together.
Every couple is unique, but in nearly all distressed relationships, mutual understanding is very poor. Attempts to resolve differences have been unsuccessful, and the emotional distance between partners is great. Some couples minimize their interactions. Others fight.
Fortunately, as countless couples can attest, research demonstrates that couples therapy can result in dramatic improvement in relationship quality. Not every couple experiences dramatic improvement, but many do. Effective therapy involves teaching specific skills to relationship partners and working with the couple until they integrate the skills into their relationship behavior. The purpose of these skills is to promote deep and mutual understanding.
I have been providing couples therapy since the early 1990s. I greatly appreciate the contributions that Drs. John and Julie Gottman have made to the field during the last 25 years. The Gottmans' approach to couples therapy feels very natural to me. That may be because I was originally trained in the tradition and methods that the Gottmans expanded and formalized to create Gottman Method Therapy. In any case, I appreciate the work that the Gottmans have done, and I integrate their methods and techniques into my work with couples.
Finally, I should say that I feel fortunate to do the sort of work that I do. Providing couples therapy is interesting and rewarding, and I appreciate the fact that couples allow me into their lives. If you are looking for couples therapy, please give me a call.