Gottman Referral Network

About

All my sessions with couples are video based, using a secure video connection. I work with couples throughout California.

We all have a deep longing for connection. Do you miss it? Do you yearn to be known...and fully accepted as you are? Do you wish that you could feel like your partner has your back? Do you miss the laughter or the intimacy? Do you long to enjoy that sense that your partner is really there for you?

The Gottman research provides clear milestone markers for what a healthy relationship looks like. But you need a seasoned couples therapist who knows how to help you find your unique path to achieve those milestones.

I have developed step-by-step tools to change key destructive habits identified by the Gottman research. They give you a new way of listening and speaking that feels respectful and authentic.

But practical tools only go so far. Simply "trying harder" will not digest the powerful emotions that are fueling your conflict. You need a very different lens to see yourself and your partner in a new light. This lens unveils the powerful yearning that you have for each other--the attachment bond that has been buried by negativity, criticism, defensiveness, and hurt.

I work hard to be even-handed in marriage counseling and couples therapy. I want you and your partner to feel equally understood as you each learn to pull each other closer.

We meet weekly for at least the first 3 months. We begin with a thorough assessment. The first session involves you both telling the story of your relationship. For the second and third sessions I meet with you each alone while you also complete the Gottman online questionnaire and forms that quickly give me an in-depth understanding. The fourth session is a feedback session with the results and our strategy. Then our sessions shift focus to achieve the goals that we made together.

Contact me. Let's see if it's a good fit for us to work together on your relationship.