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Are you frustrated in your current relationship? Do you and your partner seem to have the same arguments over and over again? Are you tired of making improvements that do not last? If your partner tells you things aren’t good, pay attention! Don’t dismiss their complaints. Don’t wait until it’s too late. I can help.
I specialize in couples counseling. I have completed Level 3 Practicum Training in GottmanMethod Couples Therapy and I use Gottman Method Couples Therapy in my work with couples. I am currently pursuing certification. I work with couples to help them understand how one another's perspectives, beliefs and life history play roles in the current relationship and assist them in finding a balance that creates harmony. I have years of experience working with new couples, blended families and couples who have been together for over 20 years who are seeking assistance.
One of the strongest predictors of a healthy relationship is each partner's ability to give their spouse the benefit of the doubt. If you are not able to give your spouse the benefit of the doubt, you need to make some changes. You need to become better friends, learn about each other again and re-discover one another. Giving each other the benefit of the doubt is the key to cooperation in times of conflict. I guide couples through this journey of rediscovery so that they not only build a stronger marriage, but a stronger friendship as well.
The only way to find meaningful understanding and resolve matters with one another is to listen to the perspectives of the other, articulate one's own perspectives, and find a way to honor and respect both.
With couples, I hold 90-minute sessions so that there is enough time for you both to learn how to dialogue about perpetual (unsolvable) problems, and work on solvable problems. 90-minutes also provide time to dedicate a portion of the session to focus on strengths. The initial appointment is for both of you together (90 minutes) and then you each have an individual session (45 minutes) followed by a joint session (90 minutes). The second joint session is the Collaborative Therapy Planning session where you and I put it all together: what you've realized in reviewing your history, how you've clarified issues in the individual sessions, what was highlighted for you in completing the questionnaires, and what your hopes and expectations are for the therapy. This 4-step assessment process gives couples clarity and confidence about next steps for your relationship. The majority of the following appointments are together as you learn healthy ways to resolve conflict, improve your communication skills, and learn how to build a strong foundation for a lasting relationship.
I thoroughly enjoy pre-marital counseling and focus on helping couples build a strong foundation of communication, honesty, realistic expectations, and definition of the couple's boundaries. We look at family of origin for each partner to help them understand what life experiences they are bringing to the marriage and how their individual journey will incorporate into a healthy long term relationship. I look to each couple for an understanding of what is most important to them as they are building their life together and customize their pre-marital counseling accordingly.
If you or your spouse are considering divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path, Discernment Counseling is designed for you. It’s a chance to slow down, take a breath, and look at your options for your marriage.
Discernment Counseling is a brief process of helping couples where one person is “leaning out” of the relationship—and not sure that regular marriage counseling would help--and the other is “leaning in”—that is, interested in rebuilding the marriage.
Surveys find that up to 40% of divorced people have regrets about their divorce decision, often because they feel they (and their partner) did not try hard enough to see if they can make the marriage work.
I will guide you through discussions that help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or maintain status quo and decide later. The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future.
I will respect your reasons for considering divorce while trying to open up the possibility of restoring the marriage to health. In this brief counseling service, you will be supported, honored for where you are, and asked to look at what you would need to change in yourself to have a healthy relationship —whether in this marriage or in a future one.
Couples who go through Discernment Counseling most often come out the other end more settled and confident about their next steps: whether to make one, last, all-out effort in couples counseling to restore their marriage to health, or to move forward with divorce. Research shows that about half of couples choose the reconciliation path in couples counseling, and most of the other half proceed directlyto divorce after having carefully considered their options. Divorce lawyers report that these couples are calmer and the divorce process is smoother because of the work done in discernment counseling.
For more information about Couples Counseling or Discernment Counseling, please call or email Kathleen for a free phone consultation. You can also go to www.FamilySolutionsCounselingGA.com.
I earned my B.A. in Psychology from the University of Georgia and M.S. in Marriage and Family Therapy/Family Studies from the University of Kentucky. A native of Atlanta, I enjoy spending time with my husband, two daughters, extended family and pets.
PTSD after an affair
Discernment Counseling (couples on the brink of divorce)