Gottman Referral Network

About

Hi, I’m Kevin! I'm a proud queer/gay Malaysian Chinese Hakka cis-man and find working with relationships of all designs, truly enriching & rewarding!

I'm a relationship therapist and counsellor who’s worked with couples, individuals, and relationship systems across Melbourne, Sydney, London, and Vancouver. I help people make sense of conflict, rebuild connection, and deepen intimacy — even when things feel messy, tender, or stuck.

I work with all kinds of relationships — monogamous, non-monogamous, queer, interracial, kinky, spiritual, sexless, complex. If your story doesn’t fit the “standard” mould, you’ll find no judgment here. Just curiosity, care, and space to explore and grow — together.

My approach is grounded in the Gottman Method, enriched by Emotionally Focused Therapy, attachment theory, systems and feminist theory, and integrative modalities like client-centred, CBT, narrative, psychodynamic, somatic, mindfulness, meditation, coaching, and visualisation-based practices. I’m collaborative, compassionate, honest, and educational — always holding my clients’ wellbeing at the core of my work.

I meet people where they are — whether you’re healing from betrayal, opening a relationship, rekindling intimacy, facing a gridlocked issue, navigating a difficult goodbye, or simply trying to talk without spiralling into the same old arguments.

I also support polyamorous, ENM/CNM constellations and relationships that don’t follow traditional structures. Some clients see me both individually and together, with shared agreements (like no secrets between partners). Working like this can be deeply transformative when everyone’s committed to the process.

You can work with me online, or in person when we’re in the same city. I’m primarily based in Melbourne, with occasional visits to Sydney. I also offer a free 15-minute consultation — let’s talk and see if we’re a good fit.

If you’re ready to do the work, I’d be honoured to walk alongside you. =]

Special populations

LGBTQIA2S+ | Asian | People of Colour | Neuro-Affirming/Neurodivergent | Kink/Fetish | ENM | Trauma