Gottman Referral Network

About

I have twenty five years counselling experience, now see only couples, and work primarily online. I use Gottman based interventions, and aim to make therapy sessions positive, educative, gentle, collaborative, and occasionally even fun.

Too many relationships end, with accompanying heartbreak, not because the couple are fundamentally incompatible, but because they've never properly learned the skills needed to have a fulfilling and successful life-long connection. That's not surprising, as there are few obvious opportunities to learn those skills growing up. Our parents may not have provided an ideal model, so we have to make it up as we go along, and most of us are clueless as hell. I can be helpful with the dissatisfaction that often seems to follow the initial besotted phase, repetitive conflict, poor communication, emotional disconnection, sexual issues, affairs, and unresolved childhood hurts that may be exerting their pesky influence in your relationship.

You may be thinking that you just need someone to fix your partner, and everything will be alright. However, in all likelihood your partner is thinking something very similar about you, so I'll provide something a little more nuanced, with a comprehensive assessment to identify the dynamics that are causing problems, without blaming either of you. We'll look in detail at what the issues are, how they developed, and what needs to happen to get you back on track.

The assessment will lead to detailed conclusions and recommendations for your specific situation. I'll suggest a number of methods and resources which will help you achieve your best hopes, and in follow up appointments I'll support you in implementing our collaboratively agreed plan. My fee is £200 per 90 min session.

I also offer 'Second Honeymoon. New Start.' intensive marriage coaching/therapy, in any beautiful spot you choose in mainland UK. The fee is £4,000, including three nights accommodation.