Gottman Referral Network

About

'For one human being to love another; that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks.... The work for which all other work is but preparation.' (Rainer Rilke)

It is to your credit that you are here looking for help with that 'most difficult of tasks.' Reaching out for support and guidance when your concerted efforts haven't got you to where you want to be is a sign of both humility and strength. There may be seemingly intractable 'issues' in your relationship (Lesson number one - issues or 'problems' are usually just a sign of unmet needs.) My job is to be your coach, your guide in emotional archeology, and a helpful companion on the journey to restored harmony. I started working therapeutically over forty years ago, eventually finding my niche and my passion in focusing exclusively on couples. I offer Gottman-based therapy, augmented by perspectives from various other marriage and relationship specialists

I'll suggest skills and tools that will be game-changing, and you'll wonder, as do I, why we don't get taught these things in school or anywhere else. I'll also, if necessary, work with the part of you and/or your partner that might find it difficult to use the skills. That part is usually a much younger version of you. It learned a long time ago to protect you in certain ways that helped you then but limit you now. That 'inner child' may need to be unburdened - and understood, reassured and loved, to enable you to fully connect with your partner now.

Testimonials.

'Every word of yours is so thoughtful and loving. We are eternally grateful for having you in our lives.'

'Powerful. Almost magical.'

'Masterful.' (October '25)

Each session lasts for 90 minutes, and the fee is £400. I also offer bespoke 'marathon' therapy, for rapid relationship repair and rebuilding.

Please contact me with any questions you have, or to make an appointment. I'll reply to you within a few hours.

Love and light,
Martin