Gottman Referral Network

About

You've built a life that looks exactly the way it was supposed to.

Successful careers. A good home. People who look at you and see a strong couple. And yet behind closed doors, you're having the same argument for the hundredth time, or you've stopped arguing altogether, and that silence is somehow worse.

You're not here because you stopped trying. You're here because you've been trying so hard, for so long, and it's not working.

Many of the couples I work with are high-achieving, self-aware, and genuinely committed to each other. They know something is wrong. They can even name some of it. But knowing doesn't seem to be enough anymore.

That's where I come in.

I'm Sejginha Williams-Abaku, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in couples navigating betrayal, broken trust, and the slow erosion that happens when two people stop feeling like partners. I'm Gottman Level 2 trained and bring in DBT, IFS, trauma-informed care, and somatic work because what happened in your past doesn't stay there. It shows up in how you fight, how you shut down, and how safe you feel asking for what you need.

I work with couples who've experienced infidelity, communication breakdown, or the kind of emotional distance that's hard to even explain to anyone else. I also work with partners where one or both people carry wounds from narcissistic or emotionally immature family systems, because those patterns don't disappear when you fall in love. They come with you.

For couples who want to move faster or can't commit to weekly sessions, I offer one and two-day Intensives that go deep. We'll assess where you actually are, not where you think you are, and give you real tools to rebuild.

My style is direct and warm. I won't just reflect your patterns back at you. I'll help you change them.

If you're still in this and you want it to work, reach out. That's enough to start.
I work virtually with clients in NY, CT, and FL.

Special populations

Multicultural Couples, Christian Couples, Betrayal Trauma, Gridlocked Conflict, Attachment Wounds