If you find yourself struggling with a relationship, feeling alone, isolated or avoiding someone you love for fear of conflict, I can help. My parents always used to say that marriage takes work, but really all relationships do. As someone who has been in a relationship with my parents for 46 years, my husband for 23 years, my kids for 12 and 10 years, I know there are many complexities to communicating using our best selves. This is not always easy.
Expressing your thoughts out loud can be very powerful. Something happens when you verbalize your feelings. Sometimes you surprise yourself. Realizations occur. Talking to your partner with a third person in the room gives you courage to say things and the opportunity to listen in a way that you might not have before. Having a witness to your conversation may prevent the defensive spiral that often occurs in disagreements. Defensiveness ends in a lot of emotion and no resolution. Sound familiar?
Feelings of hopelessness, exasperation, and isolation are very common with clients who come to my office. "Will my partner ever change?" Is something I hear a lot from clients. Therapy is not an overnight cure, and with time and persistence relationships can improve. When people set out to grow a garden they don’t expect flowers the next day. Like a garden, relationships need tending and sometimes invasive weeds get in there that need to be extracted with a little extra help.
When you meet with me, we will talk about you, your family and your relationship to develop goals for getting you to where you want to be. As I have completed Level 2 training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy, I will give you a comprehensive assessment if appropriate. We will revise goals and assess your progress. If you are part of a couple, you should begin to see improvements in communication. I provide a free fifteen minute phone consultation to see if we might be a good fit. Please feel free to call. I hope to hear from you.
Individuals, heterosexual,bisexual and same sex couples